If this is the way the universe works, you can see why human relationships and human networks are so important.

　　The most common mistake people make when building relationships for their career success is treating business contacts diffierently from personal friends. Just think for a moment about the people you work with on a professional level who are also close, personal friends. Aren’t they always more forgiving when you slip up and more helpful when you’re in need ? Of course! I guarantee your work will become easier and more joyful if you make more of your business relationships personal.

　　How to do it ? The same way as you make genuine friends. Build trust through intimacy; show them that besides being professional, you're also human. Skip the small talk and go deep into what really matters -your dreams or fears, your children or the business issues that keep you up right at night. And don’t think for a moment that they’ll think less of you . In fact, usually the opposite happens.

　　When I tell people about my humble beginnings-I grew up a country boy in rural, southwestern Pennsylvania, the son of an often unemployed steelworker and a cleaning lady and how it took me so long to overcome my insecurities of being poor and being picked on by kids from more well-to-do families. People don't think less of me. They immediately empathize (感同身受) and feel more endeared to me than ever before. All you have to do is let your guard down and show enough vulnerability to make others comfortable with opening up to you.

　　Also, don’t stop with treating business friends as you treat personal friends. Mix them,too. Invite business contacts to your home and introduce them to your family. Invite a client out to dinner along with an old pal from school and your significant others or a date. Don’t compartmentalize (劃分) your personal, profeessional and community lives.Blur the boundaries! You’ll have more fun and do more for all three parts of your life in less time.

　　Planning

　　The more specific you are about what you want to do, the easier it becomes to develop a strategy to accomplish it. Part of that strategy , of course , will be establishing relationships with the people in your universe who can help you get where you’re going. So, first, do some deep introspection (自省) to find your Blue Flame, the thing in life that really lights your fire. Write, pray, whatever you need to do to clear your head and figure this stuff out. I enjoy great results from Vipassana meditation.